Healing Over-Reaction to Criticism

Slow down enough to remember your Divine Self

Many overreact to perceived criticisms from others, especially their partners. Even the slightest of micro-admonishments may trigger a disproportionate response of anger, outrage, defensiveness or offence. This is because our shame and/or fear of victimisation has been triggered.

We may then use anger or defensiveness as a way to hide from, or attempt to transmute, the even lower frequencies of shame and/or fear. The way out of this common LOOP is to identify with the perfect, invulnerable Divine Self, rather than the imperfect, vulnerable, small self. We must embrace our true innocence.

So the next time your partner says, "I wish you wouldn't talk so loud on the phone!" or "Please will you remember to turn the lights off when you leave the room!" or whatever it is, bring your full Presence to the situation. Pause and allow yourself to feel what's really going on.

Did the criticism - real or perceived - trigger a sinking feeling in your solar plexus? Did it make you clench up? Do you feel inadequate, less than? Do you feel self-hatred? Do you have the urge to lash our, or run away, in order to make your dense feelings go away?

Slow down enough to remember your Divine Self. You are Eternal Life, cherished and adored by Spirit, perfect and invulnerable. You are worthy beyond all measure.

Say, "Oh woops - did I do that again?"

Make a joke, say sorry if you are, or vow to do better if you mean it. Or smile and admit you're not going to change. Keep your energetic exchange between yourself and Source only. Don't go into energetic battle with the other person.

Pass the test so you don't have to repeat it anymore. Let it go before you even grab hold of it.