Thank you for this, Pippa. From the hip, my quicksilver anger could be named Speedy Gonzalez…but I intend to sit with your advice. I would love to live a more mellow life of greater ease.
You're welcome. I used to lose my temper every single day of my life. I've come a long way! Although I did lose it yesterday (first time in years). It was so silly. My husband was mildly annoyed that I hadn't called to tell the car service people we needed new freon in our car. And ... I lost my temper with him because I was annoyed with myself also. What can I say? I need to read my own articles!
I’m from Irish decent and in some way can understand both of your anger modes, fast to temper and every day as in habitual...
I really liked your way of dealing with it in your article and would thoroughly recommend this way. As for me it’s kinda part and parcel of my generic make up, I had to do a slightly different route, though similar in looking at it directly I meditated on where the anger was based, who was angry and why was the anger coming out so much. Turned out it was ancestral and deep routed in lack and feeling not worthy, leading to frustration and then to anger when I didn’t initially stop to think or feel the truth of what is was that was happening, which was essentially a defensive reaction and then either self blaming, depression mode or switching to anger. I still get angry though I do think that it’s natural too I just don’t yell as much and or try to let the anger take over. Generally I just walk away 🙏
Thank you for this, Pippa. From the hip, my quicksilver anger could be named Speedy Gonzalez…but I intend to sit with your advice. I would love to live a more mellow life of greater ease.
You're welcome. I used to lose my temper every single day of my life. I've come a long way! Although I did lose it yesterday (first time in years). It was so silly. My husband was mildly annoyed that I hadn't called to tell the car service people we needed new freon in our car. And ... I lost my temper with him because I was annoyed with myself also. What can I say? I need to read my own articles!
I’m from Irish decent and in some way can understand both of your anger modes, fast to temper and every day as in habitual...
I really liked your way of dealing with it in your article and would thoroughly recommend this way. As for me it’s kinda part and parcel of my generic make up, I had to do a slightly different route, though similar in looking at it directly I meditated on where the anger was based, who was angry and why was the anger coming out so much. Turned out it was ancestral and deep routed in lack and feeling not worthy, leading to frustration and then to anger when I didn’t initially stop to think or feel the truth of what is was that was happening, which was essentially a defensive reaction and then either self blaming, depression mode or switching to anger. I still get angry though I do think that it’s natural too I just don’t yell as much and or try to let the anger take over. Generally I just walk away 🙏
Yes! Brilliant. This describes my own experience with anger very well. What you just said reminds me of another article I wrote on this subject:
https://pippaoona.substack.com/p/healing-over-reaction-to-criticism
ps. I'm of Irish descent too.
The best people are imho 😝
Thank you I will look forward to reading this later🙏✨